Lighting the Candle

We recently visited the local Waldorf School. A warm and wonderful place that is very inspiring. One of the many things I took away from our visit was the fact that when we (a handful of parents and children) sat down together for the morning snack, a candle was lit. “When the candle is lit, we all sit”. That is the rule – which is gently but firmly enforced. And it seems that all the 2-4 year old children are somewhat entranced by the candle and truly sit (most of the time, that is).

So I decided to start this ritual at home. When we sit down for dinner now, we light a candle. It seemed to be a really good ritual for the children – or so we thought. Turns out, it’s also a very good reminder for the adults. It almost went unnoticed how often Ken or I would get up during dinner. Just to quickly check something, get something, take care of something. Becoming uncomfortably aware of this, we felt like little hypocrites. We might be the ones that need the candle more than our toddler…

When the candle is lit – we ALL sit. A powerful exercise that leads to a beautiful family dinner.

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